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AI Safety, Alignment & Ethics

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Being Kind in What You Ask

When you ask a friend for help, you probably try to be polite. You might say please, you make sure your request is reasonable, and you would not ask your friend to do something that could hurt someone else. The same ideas work with AI. The things you ask AI to do say something about who you are as a person. Asking AI for kind, helpful, and good things is part of being a kind, helpful, and good person.

What Are Good Things to Ask AI?

AI can help you with a huge variety of good and helpful things. Here are some great examples. You can ask AI to help you understand a topic you are curious about, like how volcanoes work or why the sky is blue. You can ask AI to help you write a kind note to a grandparent who is feeling lonely. You can ask AI to suggest fun craft ideas for a rainy afternoon. You can ask AI to help you practice spelling words by quizzing you. You can ask AI to tell you a silly story to make you laugh. All of these requests are kind, good, and helpful. They make your life better and do not harm anyone.

The Big Idea

Every time you ask AI for something, you are making a choice about the kind of person you want to be. Choosing to ask for kind and helpful things is a way of practicing goodness.

Here is a story about choosing kind requests. Twin brothers Marco and Julio both used an AI one afternoon. Marco asked the AI to help him write a funny poem to cheer up his sick neighbor. He delivered the poem with a drawing he made. His neighbor laughed for the first time in days. Julio was bored and, as a joke, asked the AI to write something that made fun of a classmate. The AI declined, but Julio felt bad just for having asked. He thought: would I want someone to ask AI to make fun of ME? Julio closed the computer and went to help Marco color another picture for the neighbor instead. He felt much better.

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There is a simple question you can ask yourself before any AI request. It is called the Kind Check. Before you type your request, ask yourself: Would I be happy if my teacher, my parent, or my best friend could see exactly what I am asking AI to do? If yes — go ahead! Your request is probably kind and good. If no — pause. Think about why you feel that way. Maybe there is a kinder way to ask, or maybe this is not a request you should be making at all.

The Kind Check

Before you ask AI for something, ask: Would I be happy if my teacher or parent could see this request? If yes, go ahead. If no, think again.

Terms

Help me write a thank-you note to my librarian.
Write something mean about my classmate so I can laugh.
Explain how rainbows form because I am curious.
Make up a fake story to get out of trouble at school.

Definitions

Passes the Kind Check — curious and harmless.
Passes the Kind Check — helpful and kind.
Does not pass — would hurt someone else.
Does not pass — involves being dishonest.

Drag terms onto their definitions, or click a term then click a definition to match.

Julio asked AI to write something mean about a classmate. Even though the AI declined, Julio felt bad. Why?

Which of these is the BEST example of a kind and helpful AI request?

The Kind Request List

  1. Think about five things you could ask AI to help you with this week.
  2. Write them all down.
  3. Now go through each one and do the Kind Check: Would I be happy if my teacher or parent could see this request?
  4. For any that do not pass the Kind Check, cross them out and write a kinder version instead.
  5. Share your Kind Request List with someone at home. Talk about why each request is kind and helpful.
  6. Bonus: Actually try one of the kind requests with an AI — with an adult's permission — and see what happens!